The Unfinished Business of Grief.
Do you have unfinished business that needs tending to?
(I think we all do, to be honest).
This can mean all kinds of things.
But what prompted this post was an email that popped up in my inbox
with a subject line that read,
“Grief is a privilege”.
(I agree with the sentiment).
It touched me.
“A shadow will slip over you and remind you you’re too late, but no one ever told you how long grief would wait”.
– Raven L. Gunn
It made me sad for those who have been stuck
in the unmatched (delayed) grieving process
caused by Covid and isolation in 2020.
I know people who are now “catching up”
by holding belated memorials, etc.
and if YOU have been stuck,
I hope you can gain a bit of “grief relief” soon.
Because grief is hard and being
“stuck” in limbo because you feel you
haven’t been able to properly say goodbye
can feel like the “worst”.
Ways to start your grief-healing process.
If you need a little help with grief,
I suggest writing out your feelings in a journal (let them flow).
Sometimes the act of selecting a beautiful journal just for this purpose
can make it feel “special” and dare I say, motivating and encouraging.
Talking to friends or a counselor is another healthy way,
and nowadays, you can even work with a counselor online.
Scrapbooking or framing photos of those you miss
can be healing as well, even though, the tears may flow.
(That’s okay, love does that to us).
And of course, praying goes without saying.
connecting with those who truly understand
what you are going through can be amazing.
There are grief support groups in-person
and online – just search Google,
but the next thing I’m sharing may be a great start for you
if you’re just starting this process and need something simple.
A wonderful grief resource.
There’s a lovely Facebook group
that you can visit right away as a resource.
I’ve shared it before, but it’s been a while.
It’s a Facebook group with over 70,000
members sharing, engaging,
to the quotes, articles, and resources
I’ve personally found many relatable articles on there.
One such article just shared seemed especially fitting
for those facing a holiday for the first time without their loved one.
“Holiday music is out of key: When songs become sad”.
It makes so much sense.
Holidays are hard when one is in mourning.
(You can click on the article to read – no Facebook account required).
That being said, if it makes you feel better
to bake the recipes your loved one used to bake
or carry on the traditions, they started,
then, by all means, do that!
Grief has no rules so you’ve “gotta” do what works for you!
Grief and hope can exist together.
Nobody can tell you how to grieve or how long
your “unfinished business of grief” will last.
(I hope you start healing soon).
However, I will tell you that grief
and hope for a better tomorrow can exist together.
When you’re ready… you’ll know.
Be easy on yourself until then.
And if baby steps are all you can handle,
then take those steps,
and consider one of my suggestions above.
We all need a starting point.
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